melancholy.

A family friend recently asked me if I had been updating the blog. Well as you can tell, no. My plan was to update until the Wedding, essentially closing out the recent journey of Jeff through his surgery to his adjustment back to life.
In May, it marked two years since his surgery. It was semi emotional for me. On the one hand there was still a sense of guilt of what we could have done. On the other, it was to admire how far he has come.
The wedding in July will be a watershed moment due to its significance on their future life, but also on their adjustment to what life has thrown at them. Jeff is not fully recovered, never will be, but he is highly functional. You could not tell what happened unless you notice the slight hitch in the way he walks. He was never a skier, or an avid outdoors person, but he is still able to play basketball in limited fashion.
Since Jordan has come home, it is comforting to see all three together doing the little things in life. Playing Nintendo, basketball, and on their computers all at the same time. At least for the next month.
We are seeing the future come quick. The invitations are out. Tiff moved into their apartment and they are slowly setting it up. It was a strange feeling the other weekend when both sets of parents were there helping to set up. It was a constant battle of what we want for them vs. what they want. It is their new home. Of course Jeff keeps looking at stuff at home to see what they can use. I am questioning whether they can put much more into that apartment and dreading the day they move elsewhere.
Jeff comes home each night after working on things with Tiff. Yesterday as the family gathered for Jordan’s graduation, she was correcting her bio papers while Jeff helped. Those of you married to teachers will understand. So come the end of July we step into a new phase, with hope and melancholy.